Chapter 3: Post 3

This chapter focused on different approaches to communicating in conflict. Personally, I am an avid avoider of conflict. Starting to read this chapter, I was a bit nervous to learn my communication style is not preferable. However, reading more and learning more about the recommended approaches, like the Relationship-centered orientation made me focus on ways to improve. 

I am usually a very Other-centered oriented person. I shy away from any situation that will end in the other person left with hurt feelings or mixed opinions of me. I try and do whatever I can to please what he or she needs. Though this makes me happy in the beginning because I am well-liked, after a while, the reputation of a pushover comes along. I've been called a "doormat" by friends before and it's insulting. But at the same time, it's not false. 

This chapter gave me the ability to see where my errors are and the benefits of changing my approach to conflict communication. Hopefully, I can try a more assertive technique and be able to stand up for my own interests while still satisfying the other person's needs, as well. 

This chapter definitely acted like a mirror for my life, which is not always easy to see. But when there are ways progress can be made, it definitely gives hope.