Saving Face

I present myself on Facebook in a specific way. It's not a false appearance, it's just a censored one. I definitely do leave out certain thoughts or traits of my personality because I do not want that audience to see them. I am "friends" with my parents, former professors, fellow church members, and relatives. I do not want these people to know the nights I have too much to drink, the impatience I have with customers, or any foul language I might have. Instead, I use my profile to update with family news, photos, significant events, school projects, and other wholesome activities. The impression I want my "friends" to get is that I love my job, I work hard at school, believe in God, and have a wonderful family- which are all true.
However, I cannot control what other people post on my own profile. I do have the option to delete certain comments or posts, but I never have. There has never been something too offensive that I thought I had to delete it. But there have been numerous instances where my friends write something that I wish they hadn't. While it is sometimes uncomfortable because I know people can read it, I do not hold it against my friends. In my own opinion, I have the choice to censor myself, but it is not my place to ask my friends to censor themselves. I love them for who they are and am not going to try and hide that or change their behavior. If there are people that read their inappropriate comments or posts on my profile and think of me differently, that is their decision. I will continue to maintain the same impression and continue to be friends with those I am friends with. 
I didn't always think this way though. Over time, I've realized it is not worth it to get worked up over what other people write. Though it does threaten my face because it's not the impression I want to uphold, any tension or conflict from it is pointless in my opinion. I've been upset by what my friend has written on my status before and it did not do any good. 

Trust

Chapter 6
In my personal experience, trust is something that is almost impossible to earn back once it is lost. I was dating my boyfriend for several months when I learned that he had been unfaithful. I approached him and explained what I had heard, and after much denying and excusing, he ultimately admitted to it. At first, I was too angry to feel anything else. But after the anger subsided, I started to realize how sad I was that he broke my trust. Loyalty and commitment are two important values in a relationship and he disregarded both of them. And then by lying and denying the act, he made it so much worse. 
While I was so hurt and upset, it's hard to take your emotions out of the situation and be logical. It can be easy to forgive and forget when you think you are in love. But I was foolish, and I thought I could mend our relationship after he apologized. After a few weeks, I realized it would never be the same. Once that bond of trust was broken, it was like I always had doubt if he was telling the truth or not. Was he really where he said he was? Did he get home at that time? I just kept looking for reasons to see dishonesty. That was not fair to him, and it wasn't fair to me because we weren't happy. 
We eventually were finished for good and since then we have not really stayed in touch. I don't have any animosity towards him anymore, but I don't think we need to be in each other's lives. The trust was never fully restored. I think now, since it's been a year, I don't have the same issues with him that I once had, but I still would not put "trustworthy" and "loyal" as his top personality traits.